Are you in a relationship or a situation?

Some people have the tendency to confuse these two words and in their defense they truly may not know the difference, so it is my job to help them understand the difference.


You are in a relationship when both parties mutually agree that they are in a relationship and not just one person “thinking” they’re in a relationship when it hasn’t been discussed with the other person. Just because you pack an overnight bag and stay at the other person’s house, doesn’t mean you’re in a relationship. Or just because you have a toothbrush at the other person’s house doesn’t mean you’re in a relationship with this person. If it hasn’t been openly discussed then don’t assume that you are in a relationship, because we all know what happens when people assume.

You may be in a “situation” if you are doing the aforementioned things and you never discussed your status with the other person. Ladies, and men too, don’t be too quick to change your relationship status on Facebook to “in a relationship” if you haven’t discussed it with the other person who is in this “alleged” relationship because you may be in for a rude awakening.

Now on the other hand, if it has been discussed by both partners and it’s mutually agreed that you all are in a “situation” and not a “relationship” and you are satisfied with that status then that is fine too. But if you are unsure of your current status them maybe it’s time you have that relationship discussion with the other person so you know exactly where you stand with that person, instead of assuming.

I’m just saying.

C Double R!

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Loved Up, But Not Wifed Up!

Ladies have you ever fell into the “wait until” trap with your man? Wait until I finish school, wait until we buy the house, wait until I get the promotion, wait until I get my divorce? Yes, women will actually stay with a man for years even though she knows he is still married in the hopes that one day he will get a divorce and marry her. Why do so many women fall for the “wait until” game?


The kicker is when the man says “I’m not going nowhere and neither are you so what’s the rush?” WTF!! Are you serious? That’s even more of a reason for him to put a ring on it! A woman will stay with a man for years, have babies for him, buy a house with him and he will never marry her you know why? Because she has already given him everything that a married coupled give each other which mean he doesn’t have any motivation to marry her. I’m just saying!!

Ladies stop playing house and stop putting the cart in front of the horse, make him work for your love. Put your foot down and if that means that you have to remove yourself from the situation to make him realize how lucky HE is to have you as his woman then do it! This is easier said than done, but in the end it is all worth it because at the end of the day you will know if the whole relationship is really worth your time and energy and if that man really loves you like he says he does.

If you are good enough to “portray” the image of the wife by living together, having kids together supporting him emotionally, spiritually and even financially then you should be good enough for him to put a ring on it and make it official and be called the Mrs. and not my lady, girl, love of my life, girlfriend or fiancée!

There is a huge difference between being the Mrs. and the girlfriend/fiancée. When a man introduces his woman as his wife there is an instant respect factor from other women as oppose to him introducing her as his lady or fiancée. Here’s some real talk, if you have a good man and other women know it and if you are not his wife then they see him as “still available”. If you don’t appreciate your worth and don’t make him wife you up then another “smart” woman will because she knows her worth just like she knows his.

I’m just saying!

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C Double R!

Ladies, have you ever taken on a man – as a science project?

Most people think of a science project as an unique project that is created from scratch that has a cause and effect aspect to it, not a man. Cause and effect refers to the philosophical concept of causality, in which an action or event will produce a certain response to the action in the form of another event. Unfortunately, some women think they can take this same analogy and apply it to a man. Some women take on men as if they are taking on a science project. They think they can build a man to their liking hoping it will create the cause and effect they always looked for in a man.


When some women reach a certain age and start thinking about being alone for the rest of their life or their biological clock, they act out of desperation, not common sense and take on any man that will give them the time of day. Unfortunately, this way of thinking does not discriminate. This way of thinking can claim a highly educated woman, a businesswoman, a religious woman, an attractive woman, basically any woman who is feeling desperate.

Desperate situations call for desperate measures. Some women would rather take a man on as a dependent than wait for the right self sufficient man to come along. They will pay off their debts, tolerate their unemployment, numerous kids, and sometimes even their hazardous vices, all for the sake of having a man.

In most of these situations friends can see the writing on the wall, unfortunately, a good number of desperate women don’t listen or refuse to listen to their friends because silently they are hoping and praying that their science project will create the cause and effect they are hoping for, but in most cases it doesn’t.

My advice is ladies don’t take men on as science projects, wait for the man that already provides that cause and effect that you are looking for in a man. Because at the end of the day that great science project may turn out to be one huge disappointment that wasted a lot of your time, energy and money,

I’m just saying.

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Watch the company that you keep – misery loves company

This goes for both ladies and men, watch the company you keep because misery loves company. It could be anything such as your love life, your success in life or your physical appearance. Have you ever noticed, especially when it comes to women, how your single girlfriends always have something to say about you and your man’s relationship? But she hasn’t been in a relationship for years and the ones that she has been in didn’t go past 3 months. Or why is it that it is always your plump friend that notices when you gain a half a pound and call you on it? Or your unemployed friends who always make negative comments about your job? WTH!


That’s why it’s important to watch the company that you keep. If you have friends that are extremely negative about everything and never have anything nice or complimentary to say, I say cut them and cut them quick. This is a sign of a person who is so miserable with their own life that they want you to be just as miserable, if not more. Women tend to be more catty than men, but there are guys out there who also player hate and don’t give props when they are due.

One thing I have learned is that you can’t help people who don’t want to be helped and you can’t change someone who doesn’t want to be changed. You can lead a horse to water but he won’t drink it unless he is thirsty. People who are constantly negative about others usually have very low self-esteem and they try to pump themselves up by degrading others.

If this sounds like someone you know, step back and walk away. But before you do let them know, “Watch the back you chew out because you may need it one day to carry you.”

I’m just saying.

C Double R!

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